Articles
Relationship advice from Richard Cole
Honest, practical articles on communication, trust, affairs and keeping love alive, drawn from years of working with couples in Bristol and online.
The Daily Temperature Reading: A Simple Ritual That Keeps Couples Connected
Most couples do not drift apart because they stop loving each other. They drift because the small things never get said. A kindness goes unmentioned. A worry sits unspoken. A piece of news never quite makes it across the room. Over time the relationship feels colder — not because anyone chose that, but because no…
Relationship Advice – Avoid Being Right.
This article offers suggestions on how to avoid the trap of "needing to be right". Avoid battling over who will have the last word and who is going to be the vulnerable one.
What makes Love Last?
This article is about ‘What Makes Love Last?’. It's based on the ideas in Gottman’s book (The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work). Having a framework can give us a fresh understanding about what makes love last which can lead us to feeling more connected.
Cheating – Why do Men and Women Cheat?
The reason men cheat isn't simply because they want sex. Men often cheat because they miss the feeling of being admired and feeling a woman positively…
Relationship Counselling – Why it’s a good idea
Relationship counselling provides a structure for you to nourish and build on what works in your relationship and have a safe place to work through issues.
Relationship Counselling – How To Communicate Better
Communicating better starts with having the intention to spend regular time together with your partner.
Change In Relationship Counselling
Relationship Counselling gives you the skills and experience of re-connecting to the 'Me' feeling as you communicate helping you find the clear expression of…
All About Love
This article looks at the initial falling in love stage of relationships and how we form a loving bond. It helps you understand what your partner needs from you to feel safe and loved
Couple Intimacy Exercise
This is a couple exercise to be done when you are both relaxed and in a good space to give some attention to each other. It's a structured exercise.
Relationship Counselling – “Be here Now” Exercise
This exercise below is a great technique to reconnect and soothe yourself . It takes a little practice to get the hang of it.
Stuck Relationship Patterns
When you are in the thick of arguing or can’t talk issues through it can be hard to see what is going on.
Affairs and Betrayal
In this article I share my experience working as a relationship counsellor with couples where there has been a break of trust.
Controlling Men
This article is about controlling abusive behaviour seen in some men. It's a summary of the information in Lundy Bancroft's books , Why does he Do That and…
Relationship Counselling for Boarding School Survivors
It might seem strange to be speaking of boarding school on a relationship counselling site.
Men..When You Mess-Up – Admitting It Is An Option
Men, it’s inevitable that at times you are going to mess up and get things wrong for your partner.
Couples Counselling using Emotionally Focused Therapy
Discover how relationship counselling can help you speak differently to each other.
Mens Mother Complex
This article describes a common relationship pattern where men have closed down their “ability to feel’ due to their early experience of their mother.
Relationship Therapy for Step Families
There can be great hopes of forming a new harmonious family without appreciating the inevitable conflicts that step families bring.
Infidelity: Surviving an affair in your relationship
INFIDELITY is the ultimate betrayal – but it doesn’t have to lead to divorce.